Abuse/Domestic Violence
Links
Domestic Violence/Sexual Assault
Warning Signs of Abusive Relationships
The Cycle of Abuse
Where to Find Help
www.loveisnotabuse.com – Liz Claiborne's teen dating violence website has great information for both, those living with violence and their friends and family.
http://www.ncadv.org – The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence's website contains current information for survivors and those dealing with violence.
http://www.nnedv.org – The Family Violence Prevention Fund website provides materials which can be ordered, including "No Excuse for Abuse" materials and health care provider brochures.
http://www.nrcdv.org– The National Resource Center on Domestic Violence's website features various publications and resources for organizations and individuals working to end domestic violence.
http://victimsofcrime.org/ – The National Center for Victims of Crime information site includes materials on domestic violence, stalking and sexual assault.
http://www.womenslaw.org– Legal information website, including referrals and detailed protective/restraining order information, state by state.
How Can Supervisors Help?
If you are a supervisor and suspect that an employee may be in an abusive relationship, but the employee has not disclosed this to you, focus on any job performance changes and consult the Employee Assistance Program (EAP). If the employee has disclosed, work collaboratively with him/her, your internal contacts, such as Human Resources and or Department of Safety & Security (646-4000)
Be supportive! Don’t ignore the situation.
- Tell the employee that you will protect her/his confidentiality to the fullest extent possible. Exercise caution when considering who in the college has a “need to know.”
- Be understanding, approachable, and non-judgmental.
- Respect the employee’s decisions in terms of helping her/him develop a safety plan.
- Convey that the employee is a valued part of the team; meet privately and address observed performance or conduct problems. Consult with your Human Resources staff.
- Be flexible and work with the employee to identify potential accommodations such as approving leave use, etc. to address employee safety concerns.
- If you believe the employee and/or co-workers may be in imminent danger at work, contact the Department of Safety & Security immediately (646-4000). They can help assess the potential seriousness and devise a plan of action.
Books
- Exemplary Rape Crisis Programs: A Cross-Site Analysis and Case Studies
The objective of this monograph is to present historical, organizational, and programmatic information that will lead to an understanding of the elements of a successful rape treatment program.
- The Healing Way: Adult Recovery from Childhood Sexual Abuse
This book empowers you to take charge of your life, helps you uncover your hidden strengths & develop special survival skills, encourages you to learn about abuse & to accept that it wasn't your fault. In easy-to-understand terms, this book defines childhood sexual abuse and explains how it affects the survivors.
- Men's Work: How to Stop the Violence That Tears Our Lives Apart
Male violence has become an all-too-frequent response to the frustrations and anxieties that fill men’s lives. As a result, the lives of women and children have suffered dramatically, as society has come to tolerate their victimization. This book explores an extraordinary approach to stopping male violence.
- Men's Work: How to Stop the Violence That Tears Our Lives Apart
An Empowering video presentation to increase awareness of and offer alternative to male violence.
- Rape and Older Women: A Guide to Prevention and Protection
The authors discuss the process of growing older in our society, the special vulnerability of older women, and the physical and psychological impact that fear of crime and sexual assault have on the lifestyle of older women. They also discuss prevention strategies, and educational and training tools for older women.
- Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest and Its Aftereffects in Women
E. Sue Blume offers hope, understanding, and healing for the survivors of incest. This is the first book on the subject that focuses not on what incest is, but rather on what incest does to those scarred by it, affecting how they dress, their body image, and relationships, as well as their ability to feel and think.
- The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
The Courage to Heal is an inspiring, comprehensive guide that offers hope and encouragement to every woman who was sexually abused as a child--and those who care about her.
