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Supporting Your Student

Parents and other caregivers are a valuable resource and support system for college students. Researchers have found that close relationships and open communication with one’s guardian(s) help a student adjust to college life, to make effective career and relationship choices, and to develop self-confidence and a sense of personal autonomy.
You probably know your student better than anyone else. It is likely that you could be the first to notice changes in your student's mood or behavior that may be an early indication of emotional or psychological distress. Some indications that your student is in trauma may include:
  • Changes in academic performance, motivation, concentration, grades, or class attendance.
  • Changes in behavior, energy, personal hygiene, speech, mood, sleep or appetite.
  • Changes in relationship patterns or the way they interact with loved ones, conflict in close relationships, social isolation.
  • Depression or references to suicide, statements about hopelessness or helplessness, or pessimism about the future.
Students tend to turn to their guardians when making important decisions. You can help build an important web of support that will help your student heal if they have experienced stalking, harassment, partner violence or sexual assault. Some tips on supporting your student include:
  • Speaking to them when you notice something unusual.
  • Communicating directly and in a caring manner about the behaviors that are causing concern.
  • Avoid being critical or judgmental.
  • Be willing to listen.
  • Ask directly how you can best be of help.
  • Encourage responsibility by helping your student define the problem and identify possible solutions.
  • Encourage your student to seek counseling.
  • Consider seeking counseling for yourself to help you work through any anxiety you might be feeling as a result of your student’s trauma. 

Last Updated: 11/22/14